The man is just as vulnerable

We all believe the man is the head, the man is the protector and he prides in it but in reality and in the cases of #GenderBasedViolence men are as equally vulnerable as women. They too are weak in certain instances.

A few weeks ago, i had gone to reduce the size of my dress in kamwala and the tailor was a man so I asked him his views over the topic and his response was "who would believe me if i said my wife had beaten me up, even the police don't believe us men " "mukazi wako anga kumenye ninshy weo wankala che? " is a common question at the police stations.
The loss of pride as a man is what generally keeps them quiet as they cover up the shame of failing to defend themselves from offenders.
Sexually, reports on men/boys being sexually abused are not common  but that does not mean it doesn't happen. We hear of stories of how men are molested ,defiled and raped by fellow men in prisons, schools and so on but how many of them can open up and share their stories as victims of GBV?

The embarrassment and shame felt is what makes "us" bound. How will people see me, How will the community take my story, will i be able to stand the judgement and critism ?
Mentally, the victims are traumatized and tortured and this ends up ruining their social lives. Most victims also end up as offenders .

The fight against gender based violence in Zambia continues with hopes that men can come out too more often and report cases

#GenderBasedViolence #MaleVictimsOfGBV #GBV #Ruddietude